Is it selfish?

Whilst being a mother is probably the most rewarding job in the world, it is also the most gruelling and demanding! Taking care of a little person who is completely dependent on you can be utterly exhausting, both physically and emotionally. So, of course, it is completely natural to need and want a little bit of ‘me time.’ If you’re here and reading this, you might be feeling guilty for wanting some time away from your little one. I am here to assure you that it definitely isn’t selfish to want some time to yourself because your physical and mental well-being is vital for you and your family.

 

For so many mums, it can be almost impossible to get a break between taking care of the children round the clock, work, and house chores. It isn’t always possible to relax when you just don’t have the time. However, it is essential that you prioritize yourself and your well-being. Otherwise, you can end up feeling frustrated, overwhelmed, and even burnt out. There are several ways that you can begin to relax once you give yourself permission to do so.

 

Now remember that taking some time out for yourself doesn’t have to be a lengthy break or night away. Something as simple as putting your feet up on the sofa whilst watching television, or even a quick catch-up with friends, can be enough to recharge your batteries and leave you feeling refreshed. From time to time, do remember that it is okay to put off the housework or chores and do something for yourself instead. When you need some ‘me time,’ there is nothing wrong with asking your partner or family and friends for a little support with your child.

 

Disrupted sleep for your child and yourself can also make it harder to relax. If you have a little one that doesn’t sleep well, it is perfectly natural to want them to sleep better so that you can rest and sleep too. Sleep is fundamental for children and adults alike, so it is absolutely not selfish to strive for this! Establishing good day and nighttime routines and sleep practices for your child will positively impact their sleep. If your child is older and has stopped napping during the day, it can be a good idea for them to have a little quiet time after lunch when they can read or colour, so that you can both relax. Creating healthy sleep practices for babies and toddlers is as valuable for them as it is for the family so please do connect with me should you require any support in order to achieve this.

 

So don’t forget that your mind and body need a little time to reset every now and then whilst you hold down the most important job in the world, so please don’t feel guilty for taking your ‘me time.’

 

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