How to Ditch the Dummy (pacifier)

Are you wondering how to finally say goodbye to the dummy (pacifier)? Maybe your little one wakes up every time it falls out, and you’re exhausted from constantly replacing it throughout the night. Or perhaps you’re concerned about dental implications, ear infections, or simply feel your child is getting too old for it. Whatever the reason, you’re not alone—and I’m here to help!

As a paediatric sleep consultant (and a mum who has been through this myself!), I understand how daunting it can feel to wean your child off their dummy. But the good news is, with the right approach, it can be a smooth transition. In this guide, I’ll walk you through different methods to help your little one let go of the dummy in a way that suits them best.

When Is the Right Time to Ditch the Dummy?

Before we jump into the methods, it’s important to consider when to remove the dummy.

If your baby is under 6 months, you don’t need to rush. Many babies find dummies soothing due to their natural sucking reflex, and some research suggests that using a dummy during sleep can lower the risk of Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). If you do introduce one, wait until breastfeeding is well established.

Between 6 and 12 months, The Lullaby Trust recommends gently withdrawing the dummy to avoid potential longer-term problems, such as ear infections and misaligned teeth.

If your toddler or older child is still using a dummy, it’s completely fine to phase it out when you feel ready. Ideally, choose a time when life is relatively calm—avoid periods of sickness, house moves, or big transitions like the arrival of a new sibling, as your child may rely on the dummy more for comfort.

Now, let’s explore the best ways to say goodbye to the dummy!

How to Wean a Baby Off the Dummy

For babies under 12 months, the most effective approach is usually cold turkey.

The Cold Turkey Method

1. Choose a night when you’re ready to start.

2. Remove the dummy completely.

3. Stay committed—once it’s gone, don’t go back!

Your baby will likely protest at first, as they’re used to the comfort of sucking. This is normal! Offer plenty of reassurance and comfort in other ways—cuddling, shushing, patting, or rocking. Most babies adjust within 2–3 nights and completely forget about the dummy soon after.

Will I need to offer more comfort during the transition?

Yes, and that’s okay! If you find yourself rocking or cuddling more than usual, don’t worry—once your baby settles without the dummy, you can gradually reduce this extra support.

How to Wean a Toddler Off the Dummy

For toddlers, a gradual approach often works best. Here’s how:

1. Limit Dummy Use

Gradually remove it during happy, relaxed moments—such as while playing at home—before working up to naps and night time sleep.

2. Offer an Alternative Comfort Object

Toddlers often need a replacement comfort item to help them transition. If they’re over 12 months, you might introduce a snuggly, soft toy, or blanket to take the dummy’s place.

3: Explain the Process

Older toddlers will respond well to simple, reassuring explanations. Let them know they’re growing up and won’t need their dummy soon. Reading books about giving up dummies can also help prepare them.

Fun Ways to Say Goodbye to the Dummy

If your toddler needs extra encouragement, try making the process fun with these methods:

The Dummy Fairy

Tell your child that the Dummy Fairy needs dummies for new fairy babies. If they leave their dummy out, the fairy will take it and leave a special gift in return! Some parents even “post” the dummy to the fairy or put it in a special box for collection.

Dummy Swap for a Special Reward

Offer a reward system—such as a sticker chart leading up to a fun activity, a trip to pick out a new toy, or another small treat. Daily rewards for staying dummy-free can help motivate your child.

What to Expect After Ditching the Dummy

The first few nights might be challenging, especially if your child has relied on the dummy for a long time. However, the adjustment period is usually short-lived, and most children forget about their dummy completely within a few days.

How to Support Your Child During the Transition

·       Offer extra reassurance—cuddles, soothing words, and comfort.

·       Stay consistent—once the dummy is gone, don’t reintroduce it.

·       Be patient—your child may protest, but this phase will pass quickly!

If you’ve had to offer more hands-on support during the transition, that’s okay! Once your child is more settled, you can gradually reduce this extra help and guide them back to a more independent sleep routine if you want to.

Whichever method you choose, consistency is key. Your little one may protest at first, but they will adjust—usually within a few nights. Before you know it, they’ll have completely forgotten about their dummy!

I hope this guide has given you the confidence to navigate this transition smoothly. If you’d like personalised support, feel free to get in touch—I’d love to help!

Speak soon

Rina x